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12/19/2015, 10:30 PM
If love is the answer..
how come so many people who love each other just can't seem to work out their differences?
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12/23/2015, 6:29 AM
love is the word. all you need is love. is that all you need, or is there more?
12/22/2015, 12:52 PM
We've been married 40 years and we're still going strong. We agree on many things but on some thing we agree to disagree without rancor. We have learned when to compromise and when not to compromise. We make each other laugh whenever possible. We share tasks. We each have a strong sense of personal identity. We do things together and we do things apart. We never argue at night because tired people say things they regret and it makes sleeping impossible. We celebrate our similarities and and tolerate our differences. We sing funny songs when we walk down the street. We choose our battles carefully and we try not to fight dirty. We support each other's goals and dreams. When we have a rough patch we know we'll get through it. We don't hold grudges. We're in it for the long run. I can't imagine life without her.
12/22/2015, 8:30 AM
Ken, true, I was exaggerating the principle, of course there are going to be disagreements.and it is indeed a two way street, and we iron out differences, I was trying to make a point how to defuse a particular situation, but frankly men cause the most problems. because man, that is the way we are wired. we are wired weird. see that all those letters scrambled up. how we survive is beyond me, we should be extinct by now, except I guess we are needed
12/22/2015, 8:25 AM
yes sometimes us men can be as you say "hoseheads " and sometimes women can be well you know what they can be I won't say it. I admire your years and not many can claim to have such a duration these days. But does duration equal love or does duration equal complacency I wonder. Yes sometime you need to say YOUR RIGHT I AM WRONG but sometimes you need to say I don't agree with you but I love you anyway. Love does not mean being a slave or always bending to the will of your partner that is slavery. Love means accepting your partner even when you on the outs and listening when you don't want to hear it and giving more than you want to for the sake of the other. Who knows maybe I will learn new tricks in the years to come but its got me this far in 19 years of marriage.
12/22/2015, 8:11 AM
YES it works like this, and took me a long time to get it and understand So, for a successful long lasting relationship this is what I try to do EVERYDAY I SAY IF IF I DONT HAVE TO YOUR RIGHT I AM WRONG I LOVE YOU AND ALSO I LOVE YOU stuff like that that works wonders, there in a nutshell is how a guy needs to admit we are the lesser ones, the not so smart ones. if a man thinks he is smarter then his better half or other half , whatever half, then you are a loser. ok take off eh men are such hoseheads sometimes
12/22/2015, 8:00 AM
I had to take a shower after reading all this phoney baloney. better now. ok. yes, I do have someone, 43 years of wedded bliss. why I am so blessed I dont know, must have some magic in me or they felt sorry for me? : )
12/22/2015, 7:55 AM
too yecky and icky for me dudes, duders dudetters whatever. fluffy cloud stuff not real come on now. angels floating down dusting you with angel dust sparkle and shine get real
12/22/2015, 7:38 AM
I agree with American Lesley Jane that love is a complicated beast. I also agree with Noah Spaceship sometimes you love some one and they don't understand it or don't appreciate it but if you really love them and I mean the gritty kind of love that last more than a 10 minute romp in the sack then you just keep on loving them anyways. True love never fails and never fades. True love is not about being able to work out differences but it might make life more pleasant when you can. True love keeps loving despite our differences. True love is loving not about being pleasant but its about sticking around when the shit hits the fan and your up to your eyeballs and you hold each others hand with a tear in your eye and say well at least we are in it together. True love is hard to find and even harder to loose because it can be lost but yet sometimes can still be found again still burning in the ashes that you thought were long dead and cold. It is my hope that everyone at least once in a lifetime gets to experience this but some don't. For you my brothers and sisters in indyland I have a kind of love it's a love that I can't explain and I hope you don't mind when I tell you unashamed that I do love you and hold you close to my heart and when the cold wind blows you keep me warm and when the rain pours down sometimes we both get soaked to the bone but we still have each other. If we fight don't think that I don't love you anymore. I do and sometimes during the times we fight I love you even more even if it does not feel like love right then. Love and peace, TSC, Ken
12/20/2015, 3:23 AM
Oh love is then answer, alright - t's just that hardly any adults know what that word means anymore - not like Fred's understanding of it above ^ - really well said, I thought.
12/19/2015, 10:49 PM
Maybe love isn't the answer. But if it is, maybe it only works for those who appreciate it. Or maybe for those who can't work out their differences, their love is misdirected. One thing I've experienced is love makes the world more beautiful despite our differences and/or lack of resolve. Maybe love is the path to peace and the only difference that needs working out is first working out the difference between loving oneself or not.